Another work week comes to a close, and another weekend’s shining beacon of hope, light, and shenanigans envelopes us. Unless you work weekends, well then... sucks to be you ;-)
Crap, I work most weekends! I can still partake in shenanigans, though, and hopefully you can too. Last weekend was a busy one, and this one shaped up to potentially be as well. I should be getting ready for said events as I type, so I’m going to cut right to the chase.
There were plenty of things for me to be thankful about this week and I’d like to highlight a handful of them. Unfortunately none of them involve the word “thwack” this time. I know, Sad Panda.
10 Things of Thankful IV
1. The local coffee shop I frequent on Tuesdays and every other Thursday. The atmosphere is incredibly friendly and laid back (yeah, yeah… most are). I enjoy their pastries that I shouldn’t eat but do anyhow, because I’m a rebel and love walking on the edge. One barista plays “I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles)” as her closing song. Who doesn’t love that song…?
2. The bar down the road from said coffee shop. I’m not really a drinker, but a lot of the writing friends I’ve made are... LUSHES! Not really, but the bar was one of our Thursday write-in meet-ups (as was the coffee shop come to think of it), and it carried over after NaNoWriMo ended. The servers are really friendly and over the weeks/months many of them came to joke and converse with us on a regular basis. Now that there has been a “changing of the guard”, though, it’s a little different. Still really good times!
3. Outgoing friends. This week while at the bar a friend invited someone over to join us. I was unaware of this at the time (and it lead to some awkward comments/moments at the end of the night…), thinking she had just decided to join us after accepting her drink. It was positive, either way. We talked most of the night [read: they talked and I chimed in randomly per usual!] and it was a great experience. Had my friend not been the type to feel comfortable engaging in conversation with random people I would have never gotten to meet such an awesome individual. Even if some of the stories shared were… emotionally/ethically... confusing…
4. Invites. If it’s not been noted by the people in my life (I imagine it can be a little harder for those who only know me through the Blogosphere), I’m sort of a hermit; a recluse. Maybe not of Howard Hughes status (though maybe if I were that intelligent and rich I would be?), but reclusive all the same. I don’t invite myself out to places, and generally am too timid/shy to invite others to partake in spending time together. This really puts a damper on my long-planned Game/Magic Nights, and may explain why it’s already almost July and no such events have taken place. To be fair, however, I just purchased the tables to make such activities/events possible! Anyhow, I appreciate and am thankful when I am invited out. Whether I actually go out, and how patient the invitees are with coaxing/pushing, is another matter entirely.
5. Mechanically-inclined friends/family. Fuck cars and all that jazz. I don’t know how to do any of my own work on my car, and am very thankful for those in my life that do. I really hate asking for help, but if I do it’s for my car, more often than not. Freaking PoS! I’d love to have such an abundance of money that if my car ever broke down I could just leave it on site and go by a new one. Maybe that’s exaggerating some… maybe.
6. Volunteer work! I finally got my feet wet doing some volunteer work. A friend’s mother-in-law adopted a stretch of highway in honor/memory of her daughter. There was a pretty large turnout. Oddly, I had no issues bucking up and talking to his mother-in-law and their friends on my own, as he had yet to arrive. I was worried my complete lack of sleep and threat of storms would deliver a one-two, combo punch on my anxiety nerve. I survived and had a lot of fun in the process! Now to volunteer a bit further outside my comfort zone...
7. Inspiration. In this case, the various hard/personal topics a handful of fellow bloggers have been posting over the last few weeks. Like A Fly on Our (Chicken Coop) Wall, Finding Ninee (along with Considerings and others, there is an ongoing Our Land series I’m still learning about), Adventures of a Willow Wimp, and The Tex Files to name but a few. I’m sure there are many more that I’ve missed or have yet to look into, but the point is that they make me question my hesitation about utilizing my blog for it’s true original purpose: simultaneously work through some tough subjects while allowing people to learn more about me on a level I’m usually never open to being when face-to-face.
In written form I assumed it would be easier to delve into some things, and for the most part it has. I’ve written some very personal subject matter; some I felt may steer one’s original positive thoughts about me into a more… negative direction. I’ve touched on some topics that are important to me, but I also know I’ve been avoiding a handful that I specifically wanted to tackle over the past few months. Some I’ve hinted at during the A to Z Challenge 2013 in my D post, and completely avoided in my W post. I’m a Master of Avoidance, or so it seems.
So reading these posts by others gave me some additional awareness of said avoidance, and they inspire me to finally bring to light that which attempts to remain hidden.
8. Discussion. Rather, the engaging of civil discussion/debate devoid of hate spewing. It’s understandable to be passionate about something; great really. If it blinds someone to being unable/unwilling to understand and/or respect another’s difference of opinion, though, I feel it’s bad news bears. Not everyone is going to share your thoughts, feelings, opinions, perspectives about everything under the sun. Berating and shame-mouthing someone into agreement isn’t the route to go. Some choose to take it, however, and I choose not to engage on the “hot topics” with them.
9. Close proximity of bare necessities. I’m lucky enough to live right behind a small shopping center that is made up of stores that cover the most fundamentally basic necessities I’d ever need. All of it’s in walking distance. Thankfully, some of the locations are 24/7 allowing my late night urges some relief. That sounds creepy, stalker-like, but I just like the ability to go somewhere active in the middle of the night if I should desire to. Somewhere that doesn’t have to be a bar or club, and doesn’t involve needing to drive.
10. Close proximity of another nature >.> I’m thankful for the intimate moments I’ve been able to share with others throughout my life. This doesn’t necessarily mean sex, but it’s certainly in the mix with some. Lovers, girlfriends, friends. A handful of them remain actively present in my day to day, while others have wandered off the grid — doing their own thing. Also: I may be a cuddlewhore. Don’t judge.
And as we cut away from this weekend's blog hop, I leave you with:
That should do.
Do you have a specific locale you enjoy to frequent? If so, what draws you to it? Are there specific topics you’ve avoided writing/talking about? Do you have people in your life that are impossible to engage in level-headed controversial discussions with? Has anything/anyone inspired you lately?